Personality test through colors..

Main components

You are 42 % extrovert and 58 % introvert.

Independently of any order of importance :

You are able to have an in-depth thinking, you think before acting, and you know how to communicate your knowledge.

You are also attentive and cautious, you take into account the needs of others before setting up the defined goals.

Finally you are strong-willed and active, your actions are determined by your own will, by the goals you settled for yourself, and by your need to act and to move forward.

Your understanding of your environment :

At first, at 38%, you are focused on the facts and on the reality, and your decisions are determined by your perception of facts.

Then, at a ratio of 31%, you are centered on your thoughts and your actions are determined by your knowledge and your experience.

Finally, at 30%, you are attached to moral values and feelings, and you have an emotional relation with the environment.

How you assert yourself :

In your relations with others, your actions and behaviour are determined by your sensibility and that of your partner at a ratio of 55%. Then you are driven at 44% by own will and personal goals.

Your will power 44
Your sensibility 55

Also, your point of view and your decision-making are motivated by your inner conviction at 61%. Dialogue and exchange of views with others are taken into account at 38%.

Your ideas 61
Your relations 38

Finally, your inspiration and your creativity, your artistic or spiritual impulse have an influence of 56%. Also your family and personal ties interfere at 43%.

Your inspiration 56
Your family 44

The qualities that characterize your personality at this time :

Your insights.
you are thoughtful and deep, you think before getting into action and you know how to communicate your knowledge.
at 22 %

Your thinking.
you are attuned to others and you show a good emotional intelligence, which allow you to give support to people.
at 22 %

Your intellectual performance.
You are intellectual and intelligent, you wonder and you inquire before taking any action and setting your values.
at 19 %

Your emotional intelligence.
you are thoughtful and capable of listening to others, you take into account the needs of others before setting up the defined objectives.
at 18 %

Your energy.
you are strong-willed and active, your actions are determined by your own will, by the goals you settled to yourself, and by your need to act and move ahead.
at 17 %

Finally, you are creative, you know how to see beauty, you are intuitive and your inspiration comes from the inside, you are a creative person, with always new ideas, and you know how to apply them.

Why Not Be Not Single? How to Make Time for Romance

Connecting with your partner emotionally and physically is a soothing balm for our frazzled lives.. A foot massage and a sympathetic ear give us the chance to recharge our selves and our love lives.. But after a long day of putting out fires at work,handling numerous phone calls, writing up that report, shuttling the kids back and forth, cooking, doing laundry, walking the dog, etc., etc.- the last thing on your mind is romance.. With so much competing for our attention it is easy to focus on everything but each other.. So, how do you find the time to connect with your sweetie? Make intimacy a habit just like your morning coffee and bagel by adding it into your daily routine..

1. Compliment each other on the things you like and appreciate about each other every day.. Let your partner know that he/she is in your thoughts and in your heart..

2. Create your own simple rituals that show that you care about each other.. Find a way to connect during the day with a note, a phone call, or an email..

3. Listen without giving advice, taking responsibility, or trying to "fix" things.. Let your mate enjoy the luxury of knowing that you are really listening.. Only give feedback if your mate asks for it..

4. Talk to each other about what's going on in your lives besides the day-to-day running of the household or office talk.. Share what you are feeling..

5. Hold each other.. A simple hug can do wonders..

6. Instead of the standard, "How was your day?" exchange, pick at least one good thing about your day and share it with each other..

7. Give each other a kiss when coming and going..

8. Laugh together - often..

9. Plan a regular "date" night once a week..

10. Say the words "I love you"..

You may be thinking that your relationship is the one thing in your hectic life that is stress-free, so why change things? While there is a certain level of comfort and predictability in a long-term relationship, the danger is that you may stop listening and may stop "being there" for your relationship.. Knowing your mate inside and out can also give both of you the illusion that you can read each other's minds.. And this can lead to misunderstandings which, when piled on top of each other, can lead to relationship disasters..

Talk to each other.. Listen.. Ask questions.. Don't assume.. As you continue to grow and change as an individual, so will your relationship.. Keep the lines of communication open by not tuning each other out.. This doesn't just apply to verbal communication either.. If your mate feels more like a roommate than a lover, perhaps you should incorporate more "togetherness" into your daily routines.. Love is in the little things, in the day-to-day details of our lives..

Good luck everyone ;)

A Kiss? Why Do We Kiss?

Whether we use it as an informal greeting or an intensely romantic gesture, kissing is one of those ingrained human behaviors that seems to defy explanation..

A kiss isn't just a kiss! The lip-to-lip contact may have been passed on through evolution, not only as a necessary means of survival, but also as a general way to promote social bonding and as an expression of love..

Now, it’s believed that kissing helps transfer critical information, rather than just meat bits.. The kissing we associate with romantic courtship may help us to choose a good mate, send chemical signals, and foster long-term relationships.. All of this is important in evolution’s ultimate goal—successful procreation..

Kissing allows us to get close enough to a mate to assess essential characteristics about them, none of which we’re consciously processing.. Part of this information exchange is most likely facilitated by pheromones, chemical signals that are passed between animals to help send messages..

Researchers found that women didn’t just chose their favorite scent randomly.. They preferred the scent of man whose major histocompatibility complex (MHC)—a series of genes involved in our immune system—was different from their own.. Having a different MHC means less immune overlap and a better chance of healthy, robust offspring.. Kissing may be a subtle way for women to assess the immune compatibility of a mate, before she invests too much time and energy in him..

Although common in courtship, females put more importance on kissing, and most would never have sex without kissing first.. Since females across species are often the choosier ones when it comes to mate selection, these differences in kissing behavior make sense.. Men are also more likely to initiate French kissing and researchers hypothesize that this is because saliva contains testosterone, which can increase libido.. Researchers also think that men might be able to pick up on a woman’s level of estrogen, which is a predictor of fertility..

Kissing isn’t all mating practicality; it also feels good.. That’s because kissing unleashes a host of feel-good chemicals, helping to reduce stress and increase social bonding.. The longer the couples had been in a relationship, the farther their levels dropped..

It could be that women need more than a kiss to stimulate attachment and bonding.. Therefore, kissing plays a role not only in mate selection, but also in bonding.. Kissing is involved in the three main types of attraction humans have: sex drive, romantic love, and attachment.. Thus, evolved to help on all three fronts..

Whether we live in a place where kissing is reserved for close acquaintances, or somewhere where a casual greeting means a one, two, or three cheeker, one thing does remain highly consistent: the side to which people turn while kissing.. It’s almost always to the right.. Twice as many adults turn their heads to the right rather than the left when kissing..

And now, here comes to great part..

One of the best things about kissing, however, is that we don’t have to think about any of this.. Just close eyes, pucker up, and let nature takes its course..

Just... A few words of wisdom... Diary of An Insomniac page 210

Today will NEVER come again.. Be a blessing.. Be a friend.. Encourage someone.. Take time to care.. Let your words heal, and not wound.. Coz today will never come again..

Live... Love... Laugh.. Do each everyday.. Smile and hug the people in your life, let them know you care and that you love them..

Everyday you wake up is a blessing.. Treat it like that.. Be thankful for all you have and enjoy the fact that you're here to have your problems..

MISTAKES makes me human. FAILURE makes me stronger. LOVE keeps me alive. But its YOU who keeps me smiling :)

Accept failure but do not accept not trying!

Never regret your past, only regret if you don't learn from it!

The moment you think of giving up, think of a reason why you held so long.. Do or die is an old saying.. Do it before you die is the new one..

If you're troubled today remember to breath slow, take one moment at a time, put the stereo on your favorite song, and sing as loud as you can!

Attracting Women.. (Diary of an Insomniac page 204)

There are two secrets to meeting beautiful women and without them, the best methods in the world will not work.. These are: the right attitude and being unique in your approach.. Being unique may draw all kinds of girls to you, but you must have the proper attitude to hold on to them.. These are so important that I will cover them in detail right now.

-Attitude-

This is the most important quality you can possess to be successful with women.. Nothing, and I mean nothing, can compare with a superior attitude.

You can be the best looking guy in the world, but without a good attitude very few women will end up in your arms.. Let me tell you how it helped me..

"You might be a very nice guy but if you want to meet and hold onto a lot of women, you have to change your attitude... Women do not want a guy who is weak and unsure of himself... They want someone who is strong and self confident.. Be a little hard to get, a little casual and sly but also be tender and caring... Know you can do it, and you will have hundreds of women.."

-Unique-

There is not one female in this world who wants a guy who is average.. She is always looking for a guy who is different, her knight in shining armor, her dream man, the man who is unique.. That's why these methods will work, because they are different and very unique.. Any guy can walk up to 100 women and maybe 1 to 10 will show some interest.

But I want you to be successful with nearly 100% of the women, and you will nearly approach that when you have the right attitude and are unique in meeting women.. From this day forward, you will eliminate the word average from your life and substitute the word unique.. You will become a real ladies man, a man who has dozens of women at his fingertips.. You will never be lonely again.. You must attain the correct attitude and you will never be without women.. No woman seeks the common man..

They seek the man who is different, the man who is unique.. Every one of these methods are unique and different.. That is why they will work.. Have faith in me and these methods and you will succeed.

Unless you look like a Greek God or a movie star, you will have very little chance of meeting girls in bars using the normal and common methods.. Ask yourself on what other point could she possibly make her decision.. Now take a look in the mirror.. Can you make it on your looks alone?

I can't.. Therefore it's mandatory to rely on something other than your looks in order to meet sexy women in the singles bars.. You must become appealing to her.. You must reverse the normal procedure.. By doing this you will be able to select and attract the really beautiful girls and become truly appealing to them.. This is what these methods will do for you.

I want to pound this idea into your mind.. To attract women you must reverse the original situation.. In the beginning you are attracted to her.. You want to meet her.. Your opening maneuver should be to turn the tables so that now she is attracted to you, and wants to meet you.. This might seem difficult but it is very very easy.

You can accomplish this by arranging her first thoughts of you to be, "He is unique, different, and very interesting." Once you have arranged this, she will be very pleased to meet you and get to know you.. That is what these methods will do for you..

TBC

Diary of an Insomniac page 202.. "Thoughts for her..."

Through the years in life, you met several great women and with them you learn valuable lessons.. Sometimes you just could not expect things to be good.. Sometimes life can be very negative, but deciding to stay positive all the time can be a good thing (in the long term)..

Everyone’s been hurt, at least once in their lifetime.. It really hurts like hell, but from those painful moments you really learn something from it.. Learn to be patient and learn to be more wiser and understanding.. It is hard to understand the opposite sex but its worth the try.. Because you know its worth it, I know its worth it..

Have you ever been in a situation where you did what you expected to be positive and the end result is the opposite? Well, you did the right thing but the wrong move.. That is where you’ll learn..

In life of love, for me, there’s 2 things.. Acceptance and Rejection.. What I never learned is what’s in the middle between both.. Compared to the 1st and 2nd ,the one in the middle is the hardest for me to deal with.. Its what we call as, Ignorance or another thing is ‘Hanging Situation’.. I’ve been through it and it really tears open every single bit of whats left in your soul.. Being ignored by someone you had known for a long time really hurts.. Even when you’ve been honest with her and told her every single reasons for your actions.. The thing here is, I’ve tried.. Being patient for years really tests my life.. Some people might say there’s still others out there waiting, But I can't do that.. Because it will totally change my perception towards woman..

They are not clothes like the ones you change everyday, they are human.. And humans have feelings.. U can't change love like changing your clothes.. That’s not even love.. If you believe in the term 'fake love' then you're screwing people’s mind.. Try to think of the consequences.. U played with people’s mind and loyalty, and when you leave them they got hurt like hell.. If they were to think negatively, they’ll follow the footsteps of the person who did that to them.. What happens next? U know the answer.. The cycle will continue, and those who are loyal will be the victims over and over again.. Be rational and logic..

Sometimes what you did in the past can be either a good thing or a bad thing for the future.. Sometimes you never realized that the past can sometimes tells us the good value of people who once were and still nice to u.. But no one is perfect.. Not even me.. So in life you learn the term ‘changes’.. Its for the benefit of yourselves.. Why is it important? Because you live only ONCE.. And everything has got to be positive throughout your life.. Me? I did my best but still I screwed up so that will be the closing of my chapter.. Because in this chapter of mine, I've hurt someone I cared the most, I failed to understand her, and I don’t want that to happen to somebody else.. I’ve done enough and in return what I get is failure so its something that I hope will heal someday..

So people, be rational and think of what I’ve wrote.. Don’t love women just for what you see with your eyes, love them for the good things of what they did not see within themselves.. Because that is where you will really appreciate them the most..

I'm Sorry...

“I’m sorry.” Two simple words and yet two of the hardest to say. We easily utter them in response to trivial matters like accidentally jostling a stranger on the subway or giving the cashier the wrong change. Yet in important matters and to those who mean the most to us, we can find ourselves practically choking on the words. But the inability to apologize can critically wound all of our relationships, from home to work. Learning how to properly apologize is a necessary step in moving from boy to man.

Why We Don’t Apologize

Pride. Apologizing can be particularly hard for men because it involves the admittance of fault. It’s hard to say that we messed up. That we were wrong. Our pride gets in the way.

Embarrassment. If we messed up royally, doing something truly boneheaded even though we knew better, it can be difficult to talk about it to the person we hurt or let down. We feel stupid and would rather pretend like it didn’t happen.

Anger. Things that need apologizing for are rarely a one way street (more on this later). We probably did something wrong, but the other person probably did too. And sometimes our anger over how they offended us is so great that we justify what we did and can’t get past it to apologize.

The antidote to all 3 obstacles? Humility. The reason we put up these walls is that we have an overinflated view of our true selves. We’re always right; we always have it together. But it ain’t true. We’re human. We mess up sometimes. You have to accept your imperfection as a part of life. Suppressing it will cut you off from others. Embracing it will allow you to grow as a man.

When to Apologize

Even when it’s not fully your fault. There is a breed of man who will not apologize unless he feels 100% at fault for something. “But it’s not my fault!” is his battle cry. He’s not at fault for throwing away an important document at work because no one specifically told him to hold onto it. He’s not at fault for hurting his girlfriend’s feelings because she shouldn’t have been listening to his conversation with his friends.

But almost no situation is 100% one person’s fault. If your wife flew off the handle and called you some cutting things for seemingly no reason, it’s not because she’s just an ice princess; she’s hurt because you’ve been working 80 hour weeks and not spending enough time with her.

Even if the fault split is something like 1%/99%, you still need to work hard to humble yourself and come to an understanding of what that 1% is rooted in. Don’t live your life as though every day you’re pleading your case before an imaginary court, presenting evidence for why you are not at fault and are innocent as charged. It’s not as important to be right as it is to have healthy relationships with others. Would you rather be right than give up your relationship with someone? Would you rather be right than lift the hurt feelings from another? Being self-satisfied in your justice offers little benefit but the feeling of smugness. And smugness won’t keep you warm at night.

You don’t have to apologize for what truly wasn’t your fault, but you can find the things, no matter how small, that you could have handled better. Once you apologize for those things, that will get the ball rolling for the other person to own up to their mistakes. Don’t let pride stop you from being the bigger person and taking the initiative.

Even when you haven’t been caught. As a boy, did you ever break something and then run away, hoping that no one would notice, and that if they did, they wouldn’t connect the crime back to you? This is how a child handles his mistakes. A man owns up to his mistakes and offenses whether or not he thinks he will be held accountable.

Quickly. Apologize as soon as you can after making a mistake or committing an offense. The longer you wait, the more resentment is going to build up on both sides, the harder it will be to make the first move, and the more awkward the situation will become. Be a man and nip it in the bud.

When Not to Apologize

For your beliefs. If you offend someone by standing up for your beliefs because you failed to debate like a gentleman and ended up being snarky, attacking the person personally, or generally acting like an ass, then you should apologize for your boorish behavior. However, if you’ve made a completely respectful argument in favor of your position and a person is simply offended because of the nature of your beliefs, then you should never apologize for that. Don’t be sorry for what you hold near and dear to your heart.

For not meeting unreasonable expectations. You know this guy. His girlfriend expects him to kowtow to her every wish and treat her like a princess 24/7. When he fails to do this, she expects him to grovel in repentance. This isn’t being sensitive, it’s being a whipped weenie.

For everything. This man apologizes for his appearance, for things that aren’t his fault that no one is saying are his fault, and for perceived shortcomings that no one notices until he brings them up. And he keeps on apologizing. Over and over again when everyone else has moved on. Being a compulsive apologizer is highly emasculating and instead of getting you into people’s good graces as you might assume, will simply erode their respect for you.

How to Apologize

Write it if you can’t say it. Sometimes our embarrassment or pride prevents us from going in person to apologize to someone. While a face to face apology is always ideal, if you absolutely can’t do it, then it’s better to get it out then not do it at all. And sometimes a letter or note is actually a superior medium to talking because it allows you to express all of your feelings without forgetting what you want to say or running the risk of setting off another argument.

Use humor when appropriate. Some self-deprecating humor can break the tension and cause you both to laugh. I’ve found that drawing little cartoons of me and my mishap can instantly dissipate my wife’s anger. Note that I said, when appropriate. If you cheated on your girlfriend, don’t crack jokes or make cartoons about it. “And see in this panel, that’s me making out with your best friend.”

Be sincere. This is the cardinal rule of apologies. An insincere apology is in some ways worse than no apology at all. The person’s hurt over your offense will merely be compounded by their anger at your hypocrisy. An insincere apology may take the form of saying you’re sorry but saying it in such a way that your lack of contrition is patently manifest. Another form is the famous “I’m sorry you’re sorry” apology. This apology admits no fault but pretends like saying you’re sorry that the person was hurt or is angry is still pretty big of you. Don’t bother; it will make the person want to stab with you a trident.

Take complete responsibility. Never, ever make any excuses while you’re apologizing. They instantly ruin the weight and sincerity of your confession. Don’t use any “buts.” As in “I’m really sorry that happened, but….” A man takes full responsibility for his mistakes.

Express your understanding of why you were wrong and the weight of your mistake. A person wants to know that you fully understand the seriousness of the situation, that you have thought through exactly why what you did was wrong and the full consequences of your actions. Nobody wants to hear an apology from someone who clearly doesn’t know why they’re in the wrong but feels like apologizing is what they’re “supposed” to do.

Offer to make restitution. This is a key part of the apology process. You should almost always offer to try in any way you can to make up for your misdeed. This obviously isn’t always possible. If you break your wife’s 5th generation family heirloom vase, you can’t go to Target and buy a replacement. But if a situation can be fixed and rectified, that you should pledge to do whatever it takes to do so.

Pledge better behavior in the future. Notice that I said pledge and not promise. While some would argue that if you’re really sorry, you’ll never make the same mistake again, our failings as human beings dictates otherwise. I might be truly sorry for losing my temper on someone, but I’m pretty sure that no matter how hard I try, it’s probably going to happen again somewhere down the line. When you promise someone that something is never going to happen again, you’re setting yourself up for a huge rift to develop if it does. The person will be justifiably doubly hurt, because after all, “You promised!” There are of course some things that you can be almost 100% sure you’ll never do again, and if you feel absolutely confident in that, then make a promise. But generally you should simply pledge that you’re going to be working hard on fixing whatever personality or behavioral faults led to your current offense. You can promise that you’re going to be making an effort to change and turn things around.

Prove your contrition with your actions. In the end, words will matter very little if your actions don’t match them. After you’ve apologized, stop dwelling on it. Simply start acting in a way that demonstrates the sincerity of your apology.

Move on. Once you’ve given your sincere apology, don’t apologize again. Having you continually apologize may be what the offended party thinks they want from you and it may make them feel better in the short term. But in the long term, it’s going to ruin the relationship. If you continue to grovel then you’ll always be in the inferior position instead of having the person treat you like an equal. Deep down they won’t be respecting you as a man. Either the person accepts your apology or they don’t. If they do, then there’s no need to keep groveling. If they don’t, then the person doesn’t trust you and the relationship has other problems that need to be fixed.

“How To Get A Girlfriend”

Hmm..

Is it true?

Maybe..

Is there really a way to get a girlfriend?

Of course!

What do I need to do?

First of all, let me elaborate on the topic :D

A lot of guys wonder “Is there anything I should do DIFFERENTLY if I'd like to turn a casual date into a girlfriend?”

The reason why I'd like to address this question is I think many guys wonder if they should do something DIFFERENT if they'd like to pursue a relationship with a woman as opposed to just dating her a few times for short-term fun..

I personally think that women have a basic program when it comes to men that are potential romantic interests.. It says, “If he chases me, run. If he doesn't chase me, chase him.”

Of course, this is a big generalization, and it doesn't always hold true but it's true enough in most situations..

If you call a woman all the time, she'll probably not call you.. If you take a woman to dinner 4 times in a week, she probably won't be inviting you over for dinner at her place..

On the other hand, if you go out with a woman and she has a GREAT time with you, then you don't call for a couple of days, or maybe you call once for 3 minutes to tell her that you're busy and make plans for a few days later, she will be thinking about you ALL THE TIME..

If you do seem like you're into a relationship, then a woman has a much bigger decision to make, and will be taking all kinds of things into consideration; little gestures will take on new meaning..

If you're ONLY looking for a “relationship”, then this will come across in all your dealings with women.. You'll be asking different questions, answering questions differently, and playing for the long term.. This can create all kinds of problems when done "too much too soon"..

My personal experience is that women will act much more “real” if you don't put any pressure on the situation.. It's when you're acting like this is either “marriage or we're breaking up” right from the beginning that you're ASKING FOR BIG TROUBLE..

Another key point I've realized is that JUST BECAUSE I AM OR AM NOT LOOKING FOR A RELATIONSHIP DOESN'T MEAN THAT I'M GOING TO KEEP FEELING THAT SAME WAY A WEEK FROM NOW.

I've had times in my life when I've been single and thinking, “I'm not into a relationship right now”, and then I met a fantastic woman that changed my mind.

I've also had times when I wanted a relationship, but had more fun being single, so I didn't pursue one.

Best idea: Approach the whole topic with the attitude of “I'm open to whatever great opportunities present themselves.”

When you're with a woman you've just met, don't put the pressure on. Lean back. Be cool.

(ESPECIALLY if the woman is unusually attractive… attractive women are used to men falling for them too quickly, and this turns them off)

If the topic comes up say, “Well, I'm single now, and if I meet a woman that I really like, then we'll see what happens.” A lot of guys don't want to come across as being “afraid of commitment.” But don't go overboard to prove that you're not, because you'll come across as a Wuss-Bag if you try too hard.. A woman won't run away from you if you're not calling her 10 times a day.. In fact, she'll PROBABLY run if you DO call her too often..

Another perspective I have is that A LOT of relationship problems are the result of people who don't know each other, getting involved too deeply and too quickly.. This is another great thing to MENTION if a woman pushes you on the topic..

If you REALLY like her, call her a couple of times a week and see her every week or two for a few months.. Get to know her better..

And in the meantime, if you want to see other women, go for it.. Do what feels right to you..

But, always remember, don't turn into a WUSS if you get into a relationship.. If you do, you'll either find yourself being dumped or wake up one day with a ring through your nose and a leash around your neck, and an unhappy woman in your life to boot..

That's my story and I'm sticking to it.. ;)

Types.. You're Not Her Type? Awww

I was talking with some of my friends and one of them gave me this question..

"What if a woman, in the conversation with you, states she does not like a certain type of guy; for example she says she likes tall guys but one happens to be short.."

My answer is simple.. If you behave as if what a woman thinks of you is important, then you'll be very likely to do something to make her not feel attraction towards you..

Remember, ATTRACTION isn't a "logical" process.. It really doesn't make very much sense (until you understand how it works, that is)..

Just because a woman SAYS that she doesn't "like" a certain type of guy doesn't mean that she can't feel a POWERFUL ATTRACTION for a guy of this "type"..

Understand?

ATTRACTION is an emotional and physical RESPONSE..

A "type" is a PREFERENCE..

They are two totally DIFFERENT things..

Here's a good example: Women are universally more interested in taller men.. If you ask a woman what "type" of "height" ISN'T her type, she'll say something like "short guys" or "guys who are shorter than me" etc..

I have NEVER met a woman in my entire life who said "I like shorter guys".. NEVER!!

But guess what?

I have at least 4 or 5 friends who are in the 5'2" to 5'6" range that are UNBELIEVABLE with women.. They ALL date beautiful women who are taller than them..

So what's going on here?

ATTRACTION is what's going on..

So, when you ask me how to use a Cocky & Funny line to turn a "perceived deficit" around, the FIRST thing I have to say is, "Stop thinking of it as a deficit"..

First, you need to stop caring what a woman thinks of you ALL-TOGETHER..

Completely.. Totally.. 100%..

If you care what she thinks of you, then you're probably going to start acting like a total WUSS, and you're going to screw things up INSTANTLY..

Women don't feel ATTRACTION for men who look to them for approval..

Women feel ATTRACTION for men who are strong, independent, and not affected by the opinions of others..

As a note, you can learn an entire SYSTEM for overcoming these "mental limitations"... and you can also learn how to build a rock-solid self-image that will be INCREDIBLY attractive to women..

So, based on this new perspective, here are a few ways that you could handle a situation like this one...

1) NOT CARE AT ALL

One of the things you could do is to not address the comment at all... as if it didn't even exist.

A mistake many people make is thinking that they MUST take every communication that another person takes seriously and then RESPOND to it.

Not so.

You don't have to do ANYTHING if you don't want to.

So, if a woman says, "I like tall guys", you can just act as if it had never been said and continue with your conversation, getting her email/number, or whatever.

By the way, this concept can be EXTREMELY useful in other situations as well. For instance, if a woman starts getting upset about something and being overly dramatic, one great thing to do is NOTHING AT ALL. Just sit there and don't respond at all. Then, when it settles down a little, just continue your conversation as if nothing had happened (Oh, and stop hanging out with dramatic, overly-emotional women too, you dork!).

2) BRING IT UP BEFORE HER

In this case, you're talking about height. One way to deal with this is to bring it up before she does.

As soon as you start talking say, "Well, you're taller than me... I'm over it, are you yet?"

This says a few things. It says that you know what's going on... it says you're confident... and it shows that you're not afraid to deal with it.

It also addresses the issue in such a way that you'll know where she stands on it.

If she just CAN'T get past it, she'll tell you.

3) MAKE IT HER PROBLEM

Here's a place to use Cocky & Funny. - You might say, "Wow, you're kind of a freak. I think something like 1% of women are as tall as you. It must suck trying to find nice pants, huh? You have to wear all those weird pants made for freaks and
stuff."

Or, if she's talking about a trait that she's attracted to, point out the negative sides of that trait in a Cocky & Funny way.

Maybe she says, "I like men who know how to treat a lady special, take her nice places, and who pay for everything to show that they're a gentleman".

You might say, "Oh, so what you're telling me is that you like men who basically pay for your attention with money and gifts... how romantic."

...The one thing that you'll find at the bottom of all the ideas that I've just presented is FIRST OF ALL, NOT CARING WHAT SHE THINKS OF YOU.

I know that it's a paradox... you obviously want her to like you, but you have to not care what she thinks of you.

Well, get over it.

Women aren't attracted to men who are APPROVAL SEEKERS.

And if a woman throws out a comment like, "I like tall guys", you must first learn to NOT CARE, and not let it impact you emotionally.

Then you'll be free to redirect the conversation and decide if she's the kind of woman that YOU would like to go out with.

By the way, when you are interacting with a woman, one of the MOST IMPORTANT factors that will determine whether or not she will feel ATTRACTION for you is YOUR BELIEFS AND HOW YOU COMMUNICATE THEM.

And you are constantly communicating your beliefs with your body language, voice tone, words, topics, questions, and everything else you do.

Cocky + Funny

It just doesn't make sense to some guys that teasing women, busting their balls, being slightly arrogant, not kissing up to them, etc. could or should make them feel attraction.

I can understand this because I was exactly the same way the first few times I heard it and saw it being used.

I kept thinking to myself, "If I do this cocky and funny thing, I'm only going to come across as arrogant... and that can't make women like me more."

Well, I was wrong.

You must always remember that ATTRACTION isn't logical. It doesn't follow the rules that it "should" follow. ATTRACTION is a very powerful emotion that has reasons and triggers that don't make any sense at first glance...

I'm sure you've seen many attractive women with guys who mistreat them, abuse them, and were exactly the opposite of what you'd expect a woman to accept.

Why?

ATTRACTION. In the beginning she felt attraction, and as bad as it may sound, almost no amount of being "bad", abusive, or jerk-ish can convince a woman, feeling a strong attraction to a guy, to leave.

So let me take the opportunity to talk a bit about the Cocky & Funny attitude, why it works, and how to use it to attract women (without having to be an abusive jerk).

First of all, you have to remember that the formula is Cocky PLUS Funny. Always both.

If you act too cocky, you'll only come off as arrogant and insecure.

If you're just funny, always telling jokes, and making people laugh, you will probably come across as too goofy.

But if you use BOTH together, you will create magic. Cocky + Funny is like sparring... it's sport... it's fun... it's challenging... it's interesting when used with skill.

So let's get clear about what "Cocky + Funny" is.

Here's a Cocky statement:

"Her dress makes her look fat."

Here's a Cocky + Funny statement:

"If she doesn't find a dress that fits better, the fashion police are going to send in the SWAT team for her ass."

Get it?

Start with arrogance, then add humor.

So why does it work to attract women?

Well, the short answer is:

COCKY AND FUNNY ATTRACTS WOMEN BECAUSE IT QUICKLY AND DIRECTLY SAYS ALL THE RIGHT THINGS ABOUT YOU.

Women are attracted to "alpha male" types - We all know that. Women are attracted to a sense of humor. We all know that one too.

Women AREN'T attracted to men who give away their power, kiss up to them, smother them with attention, act like whipped puppies, and get nervous just being in the same room with them.

And by the way, giving away power to women is a much more complex topic than using humor, etc. If you have a problem giving away your power to women, or becoming a "Wussbag" when you're around a woman that you like, then you need try THIS:

If you meet an attractive woman, and IMMEDIATELY start giving her a hard time about something, busting on her, and having fun, it basically says to her:

"You are interesting enough to talk to, but you're going to have to do a lot more than just look good to impress me. Your beauty doesn't make me nervous in the least, I'm perfectly calm, and in fact, I'm so comfortable that I just noticed something about you that I'm going to make fun of..."

There is no faster way on earth to communicate all the right attitudes, beliefs, self-image, comfort, confidence, and power than to be Cocky + Funny.

(Except maybe to put on a perfect Brad Pitt costume.)

Once you start using this attitude, you will be totally astounded at the results.

Here's a low-risk example:

Next time you're at the grocery store in the checkout line paying for your groceries, say:

"So how much of this cash do you get to keep?" (as you hand her the money)

She'll probably laugh and say: "None... I wish."

To which you can respond with:

"Oh, I figured you were pocketing 10 or 20%... I assumed you were rich and could support me, but now I'm not interested... I want a rich girl." (Turn up your nose)

This is a great one. It's always fun to ask a woman if she's rich or famous, then when she says that she's not, tell her that it messed up her chances with you, and that you're not interested anymore.

One of the keys to the Cocky + Funny attitude is to never "crack." If she opens her mouth and gives you the "I can't believe you just said that" look, you need to turn it up a notch...

Most guys will crack and say "Oh, I was just kidding."

DON'T DO THAT! It makes you look like a wussy.

In the example above, if the checker looks at you and gives you the open mouthed "I can't believe you said that" look and says, "Hey! I may not be rich, but I'm nice!", you just look at her and say "Nice isn't good enough, I need RICH AND nice."

Your goal is not to upset a woman, but to get under her skin enough by teasing, busting on her, and acting cocky and funny so that it ignites the magical challenge/attraction mechanism.

And once you can see that you're getting a good response from a woman, GET HER NUMBER. Or get her email. Don't stand around like a dork trying to make her laugh.

As you become better and better with these tools, you can then begin "extending" the
conversation... increasing the attraction... and taking things to the "next level".

So get out there and use it, because the magic formula of Cocky + Funny will create all kinds of good things for you. You'll see.

And if you're reading this right now and thinking to yourself "I really need to learn how to master this Cocky & Funny thing", then I AGREE!

In fact, learning how to be Cocky & Funny is one of the FASTEST, EASIEST, and MOST FUN ways you can make women feel ATTRACTION for you.

What If A Woman Doesn't Call Back?

One of the things I've talked about before is how once a person believes something to be "true" or believes that they understand how something works, that they tend to make other information or new things that they learn, fit that older model, rather than being open to change..

For instance, people who become part of a cult will tend to take the advice from others, evidence that they're not doing the right thing etc. to help convince them that they ARE doing the right thing..

The reason that I bring this up is because it sounds to me like you're looking for an answer to how to solve a problem that you should actually try to PREVENT in the first place.

I'm going to talk about how to prevent this problem first, then tell you a few things you can do when you run into it again in the future as well..

Here are two things to keep in mind:

1) Women give out their numbers to guys A LOT (on average). A woman can have all kinds of reasons for giving out her number. She might like the attention, or it might even be just to get rid of a guy.

2) Women expect men to call THEM. And if a man doesn't reach them when he calls, a woman expects the man to TRY AGAIN. (In the book "The Rules" - the book for women about how to get a man to marry you - the authors tell women not to call men and rarely return a man's call, because it makes him think about you and want you more).

If I were you, I'd start thinking about two approaches:

1) Figure out how to make it so that women WANT to give you their REAL number and make them WANT to call you back based on the first meeting.

2) If you got a number instead of email, call her at least 3 or 4 times before you give up.

To figure out how to make women WANT to call you back, you might have to work on improving your humor, your personality, your appearance, or whatever. In short, you need to learn how to make a woman feel ATTRACTION for you when you first meet her. If you don't, she's not likely to call you back.

Don't go too overboard on this one because a lot of this issue is just the fact that women don't return calls as often as men do... but think it through.



There are probably a few things you're doing that make women feel a little strange at first (this is just a guess, as most guys have things they could improve).

Maybe you're acting a little too nervous.

Maybe you're acting too "nice" or like you're "awed" by women.

Maybe you're not making eye contact directly, and you're giving off a "not-very-confident" vibe.

Think about it.

But the best thing you can do is to just call a woman on the phone 3 or 4 times before you give up! (That is, when a woman gives you her REAL number)..

Women expect men to keep trying, so they just don't call back.

Remember, SHE'S THE WOMAN.. She's the one who's getting approached by interested guys, and who probably sees you as "just another guy" calling her..

You must be persistent, keep it cool and low-key, and keep calling until you reach her.

If a woman gives you a fake number, it just means that she wanted to get rid of you...

You need to think about how the interaction went, and TAKE RESPONSIBILITY for the behavior and communication that made her want to give you a fake number.

Again, think about it and make improvements.

And to answer your question directly of "What do I do if I see her again afterwards", I'd say that it all depends.

If you would consider going out with a woman who has the ethical standard of giving out fake numbers, then I'd say you might want to reconsider your choice of women...

And if you would like to talk to a woman who didn't call you back (maybe you left her a message, etc.), then I'd come up with something funny. Cocky & Funny, that is.

Walk over and make fun of her because it's obvious that she didn't have enough money to pay her phone bill and when she tried to call you back she found that her phone was disconnected but that it's nothing to be ashamed of and you'll take pity on her and buy her some ramen noodle soup while she's broke and hungry.

Just make sure you're lighthearted about it, and you communicate that you could really care less that she didn't call you back... but that you're going to take the opportunity to bust on her because she's in your presence.

Your body language says SOOOOO MUCH about you, and women use body language to decide many, many things about you.

If your body language and communications aren't working together to create ATTRACTION, then you're going to get a lot more fake numbers and a lot fewer calls back from women.