Sunday, May 30, 2010

“How To Get A Girlfriend”


Is it true?


Is there really a way to get a girlfriend?

Of course!

What do I need to do?

First of all, let me elaborate on the topic :D

A lot of guys wonder “Is there anything I should do DIFFERENTLY if I'd like to turn a casual date into a girlfriend?”

The reason why I'd like to address this question is I think many guys wonder if they should do something DIFFERENT if they'd like to pursue a relationship with a woman as opposed to just dating her a few times for short-term fun..

I personally think that women have a basic program when it comes to men that are potential romantic interests.. It says, “If he chases me, run. If he doesn't chase me, chase him.”

Of course, this is a big generalization, and it doesn't always hold true but it's true enough in most situations..

If you call a woman all the time, she'll probably not call you.. If you take a woman to dinner 4 times in a week, she probably won't be inviting you over for dinner at her place..

On the other hand, if you go out with a woman and she has a GREAT time with you, then you don't call for a couple of days, or maybe you call once for 3 minutes to tell her that you're busy and make plans for a few days later, she will be thinking about you ALL THE TIME..

If you do seem like you're into a relationship, then a woman has a much bigger decision to make, and will be taking all kinds of things into consideration; little gestures will take on new meaning..

If you're ONLY looking for a “relationship”, then this will come across in all your dealings with women.. You'll be asking different questions, answering questions differently, and playing for the long term.. This can create all kinds of problems when done "too much too soon"..

My personal experience is that women will act much more “real” if you don't put any pressure on the situation.. It's when you're acting like this is either “marriage or we're breaking up” right from the beginning that you're ASKING FOR BIG TROUBLE..


I've had times in my life when I've been single and thinking, “I'm not into a relationship right now”, and then I met a fantastic woman that changed my mind.

I've also had times when I wanted a relationship, but had more fun being single, so I didn't pursue one.

Best idea: Approach the whole topic with the attitude of “I'm open to whatever great opportunities present themselves.”

When you're with a woman you've just met, don't put the pressure on. Lean back. Be cool.

(ESPECIALLY if the woman is unusually attractive… attractive women are used to men falling for them too quickly, and this turns them off)

If the topic comes up say, “Well, I'm single now, and if I meet a woman that I really like, then we'll see what happens.” A lot of guys don't want to come across as being “afraid of commitment.” But don't go overboard to prove that you're not, because you'll come across as a Wuss-Bag if you try too hard.. A woman won't run away from you if you're not calling her 10 times a day.. In fact, she'll PROBABLY run if you DO call her too often..

Another perspective I have is that A LOT of relationship problems are the result of people who don't know each other, getting involved too deeply and too quickly.. This is another great thing to MENTION if a woman pushes you on the topic..

If you REALLY like her, call her a couple of times a week and see her every week or two for a few months.. Get to know her better..

And in the meantime, if you want to see other women, go for it.. Do what feels right to you..

But, always remember, don't turn into a WUSS if you get into a relationship.. If you do, you'll either find yourself being dumped or wake up one day with a ring through your nose and a leash around your neck, and an unhappy woman in your life to boot..

That's my story and I'm sticking to it.. ;)

Thursday, May 27, 2010

" Hadiah Birthday Untuk Alisya"

Hmm.. Baru sedar kene tag dlm contest ni.. Sowi ye cik doryn sbb lambat buat.. Huhu.. Still don't know what the contest is about and what are the prizes.. Too sleepy to read so I'm just gonna follow her example.. Pick a few presents for the baby's 1st birthday..

Taken from..
which is called "Great Teacher Onizuka"
The idea of this contest is to select the best present from the parents and you must give out the reason why..

This is the picture of the baby..

To be able to give presents for a baby, I must first picture myself as a father with a baby daughter..

For starters, I'd give her these..

It's a cute sheep :D

Reasons? The soft, fluffy sheep is the baby's perfect nighttime companion to help soothe them to sleep in a safe, calming and effortless way.. A sound box tucked safely inside of Sleep Sheep lulls babies to sleep with soft sounds from nature and the reassuring sound of a mother's heartbeat.. Sleep Sheep's soothing sounds are an audio pacifier that can calm even the fussiest babies to sleep.. When babies sleep better, parents sleep better.. Correct? :D

What would birthdays be without a birthday hat? :D

The first birthday is the most memorable one and this fine cake will make it even more so.. Finely embroidered happy birthday logo and one single candle.. Crafted of luxurious velvet, this hat is sure to please.. :D

So now we have a birthday hat, and a sheep.. What else is missing.. Hmmm.. I know!

A pair of baby booties foot rattles and a wrist rattles! :D
What else do a baby need for her birthday other than loud noises to make her become the center of attraction? :P

Thus, there you have it, a complete set.. A hat, a pair of booties, a wrist rattles and a toy :D

One of the rules is.
I have to tag 3 people for this contest..
The three persons are:
Nadd(Kiddo), Daniel(Deevon), Diana(Shanny)

My fav entry at is
Contest | Hadiah birthday untuk Alisya!

Types.. You're Not Her Type? Awww

I was talking with some of my friends and one of them gave me this question..
"What if a woman, in the conversation with you, states she does not like a certain type of guy; for example she says she likes tall guys but one happens to be short.."
My answer is simple.. If you behave as if what a woman thinks of you is important, then you'll be very likely to do something to make her not feel attraction towards you..

Remember, ATTRACTION isn't a "logical" process.. It really doesn't make very much sense (until you understand how it works, that is)..

Just because a woman SAYS that she doesn't "like" a certain type of guy doesn't mean that she can't feel a POWERFUL ATTRACTION for a guy of this "type"..


ATTRACTION is an emotional and physical RESPONSE..

A "type" is a PREFERENCE..

They are two totally DIFFERENT things..

Here's a good example: Women are universally more interested in taller men.. If you ask a woman what "type" of "height" ISN'T her type, she'll say something like "short guys" or "guys who are shorter than me" etc..

I have NEVER met a woman in my entire life who said "I like shorter guys".. NEVER!!

But guess what?

I have at least 4 or 5 friends who are in the 5'2" to 5'6" range that are UNBELIEVABLE with women.. They ALL date beautiful women who are taller than them..

So what's going on here?

ATTRACTION is what's going on..

So, when you ask me how to use a Cocky & Funny line to turn a "perceived deficit" around, the FIRST thing I have to say is, "Stop thinking of it as a deficit"..

First, you need to stop caring what a woman thinks of you ALL-TOGETHER..

Completely.. Totally.. 100%..

If you care what she thinks of you, then you're probably going to start acting like a total WUSS, and you're going to screw things up INSTANTLY..

Women don't feel ATTRACTION for men who look to them for approval..

Women feel ATTRACTION for men who are strong, independent, and not affected by the opinions of others..

As a note, you can learn an entire SYSTEM for overcoming these "mental limitations"... and you can also learn how to build a rock-solid self-image that will be INCREDIBLY attractive to women..

So, based on this new perspective, here are a few ways that you could handle a situation like this one...


One of the things you could do is to not address the comment at all... as if it didn't even exist.

A mistake many people make is thinking that they MUST take every communication that another person takes seriously and then RESPOND to it.

Not so.

You don't have to do ANYTHING if you don't want to.

So, if a woman says, "I like tall guys", you can just act as if it had never been said and continue with your conversation, getting her email/number, or whatever.

By the way, this concept can be EXTREMELY useful in other situations as well. For instance, if a woman starts getting upset about something and being overly dramatic, one great thing to do is NOTHING AT ALL. Just sit there and don't respond at all. Then, when it settles down a little, just continue your conversation as if nothing had happened (Oh, and stop hanging out with dramatic, overly-emotional women too, you dork!).


In this case, you're talking about height. One way to deal with this is to bring it up before she does.

As soon as you start talking say, "Well, you're taller than me... I'm over it, are you yet?"

This says a few things. It says that you know what's going on... it says you're confident... and it shows that you're not afraid to deal with it.

It also addresses the issue in such a way that you'll know where she stands on it.

If she just CAN'T get past it, she'll tell you.


Here's a place to use Cocky & Funny. - You might say, "Wow, you're kind of a freak. I think something like 1% of women are as tall as you. It must suck trying to find nice pants, huh? You have to wear all those weird pants made for freaks and

Or, if she's talking about a trait that she's attracted to, point out the negative sides of that trait in a Cocky & Funny way.

Maybe she says, "I like men who know how to treat a lady special, take her nice places, and who pay for everything to show that they're a gentleman".

You might say, "Oh, so what you're telling me is that you like men who basically pay for your attention with money and gifts... how romantic."

...The one thing that you'll find at the bottom of all the ideas that I've just presented is FIRST OF ALL, NOT CARING WHAT SHE THINKS OF YOU.

I know that it's a paradox... you obviously want her to like you, but you have to not care what she thinks of you.

Well, get over it.

Women aren't attracted to men who are APPROVAL SEEKERS.

And if a woman throws out a comment like, "I like tall guys", you must first learn to NOT CARE, and not let it impact you emotionally.

Then you'll be free to redirect the conversation and decide if she's the kind of woman that YOU would like to go out with.

By the way, when you are interacting with a woman, one of the MOST IMPORTANT factors that will determine whether or not she will feel ATTRACTION for you is YOUR BELIEFS AND HOW YOU COMMUNICATE THEM.

And you are constantly communicating your beliefs with your body language, voice tone, words, topics, questions, and everything else you do.

Thursday, May 20, 2010

Have you heard?

A man's ethical behavior should be based effectually on sympathy, education, and social ties no religious basis is necessary.

Man would indeed be in a poor way if he had to be restrained by fear of punishment and hope of reward after death..

Any intelligent fool can make things bigger, more complex, and more violent.
It takes a touch of genius and a lot of courage to move in the opposite direction

Cocky + Funny

It just doesn't make sense to some guys that teasing women, busting their balls, being slightly arrogant, not kissing up to them, etc. could or should make them feel attraction.

I can understand this because I was exactly the same way the first few times I heard it and saw it being used.

I kept thinking to myself, "If I do this cocky and funny thing, I'm only going to come across as arrogant... and that can't make women like me more."

Well, I was wrong.

You must always remember that ATTRACTION isn't logical. It doesn't follow the rules that it "should" follow. ATTRACTION is a very powerful emotion that has reasons and triggers that don't make any sense at first glance...

I'm sure you've seen many attractive women with guys who mistreat them, abuse them, and were exactly the opposite of what you'd expect a woman to accept.


ATTRACTION. In the beginning she felt attraction, and as bad as it may sound, almost no amount of being "bad", abusive, or jerk-ish can convince a woman, feeling a strong attraction to a guy, to leave.

So let me take the opportunity to talk a bit about the Cocky & Funny attitude, why it works, and how to use it to attract women (without having to be an abusive jerk).

First of all, you have to remember that the formula is Cocky PLUS Funny. Always both.

If you act too cocky, you'll only come off as arrogant and insecure.

If you're just funny, always telling jokes, and making people laugh, you will probably come across as too goofy.

But if you use BOTH together, you will create magic. Cocky + Funny is like sparring... it's sport... it's fun... it's challenging... it's interesting when used with skill.

So let's get clear about what "Cocky + Funny" is.

Here's a Cocky statement:

"Her dress makes her look fat."

Here's a Cocky + Funny statement:

"If she doesn't find a dress that fits better, the fashion police are going to send in the SWAT team for her ass."

Get it?

Start with arrogance, then add humor.

So why does it work to attract women?

Well, the short answer is:

Women are attracted to "alpha male" types - We all know that. Women are attracted to a sense of humor. We all know that one too.

Women AREN'T attracted to men who give away their power, kiss up to them, smother them with attention, act like whipped puppies, and get nervous just being in the same room with them.

And by the way, giving away power to women is a much more complex topic than using humor, etc. If you have a problem giving away your power to women, or becoming a "Wussbag" when you're around a woman that you like, then you need try THIS:

If you meet an attractive woman, and IMMEDIATELY start giving her a hard time about something, busting on her, and having fun, it basically says to her:

"You are interesting enough to talk to, but you're going to have to do a lot more than just look good to impress me. Your beauty doesn't make me nervous in the least, I'm perfectly calm, and in fact, I'm so comfortable that I just noticed something about you that I'm going to make fun of..."

There is no faster way on earth to communicate all the right attitudes, beliefs, self-image, comfort, confidence, and power than to be Cocky + Funny.

(Except maybe to put on a perfect Brad Pitt costume.)

Once you start using this attitude, you will be totally astounded at the results.

Here's a low-risk example:

Next time you're at the grocery store in the checkout line paying for your groceries, say:

"So how much of this cash do you get to keep?" (as you hand her the money)

She'll probably laugh and say: "None... I wish."

To which you can respond with:

"Oh, I figured you were pocketing 10 or 20%... I assumed you were rich and could support me, but now I'm not interested... I want a rich girl." (Turn up your nose)

This is a great one. It's always fun to ask a woman if she's rich or famous, then when she says that she's not, tell her that it messed up her chances with you, and that you're not interested anymore.

One of the keys to the Cocky + Funny attitude is to never "crack." If she opens her mouth and gives you the "I can't believe you just said that" look, you need to turn it up a notch...

Most guys will crack and say "Oh, I was just kidding."

DON'T DO THAT! It makes you look like a wussy.

In the example above, if the checker looks at you and gives you the open mouthed "I can't believe you said that" look and says, "Hey! I may not be rich, but I'm nice!", you just look at her and say "Nice isn't good enough, I need RICH AND nice."

Your goal is not to upset a woman, but to get under her skin enough by teasing, busting on her, and acting cocky and funny so that it ignites the magical challenge/attraction mechanism.

And once you can see that you're getting a good response from a woman, GET HER NUMBER. Or get her email. Don't stand around like a dork trying to make her laugh.

As you become better and better with these tools, you can then begin "extending" the
conversation... increasing the attraction... and taking things to the "next level".

So get out there and use it, because the magic formula of Cocky + Funny will create all kinds of good things for you. You'll see.

And if you're reading this right now and thinking to yourself "I really need to learn how to master this Cocky & Funny thing", then I AGREE!

In fact, learning how to be Cocky & Funny is one of the FASTEST, EASIEST, and MOST FUN ways you can make women feel ATTRACTION for you.

Tagged by Doryn Part 2

i got these questions from internet.

People who have been tagged must write their answers in their blog.
Tag 8 people to do this quiz.
Continue this game by tagging 8 other people

My special 8
1) nadd.
2) deevon
3) hanip
4) ap
5) effa
6) ika
7) orelle
8) bungek

1.What have you been doing recently?
  • Online

2.Do you ever turn your cell phone off?
  • Sometimes.. When? It depends..

3.What happened at 10am today?
  • Went to class
4.When did you last cry?
  • Can't remember.. Last month maybe

5.Believe in fate/destiny?
  • I set my own destiny.. What I do will effect my future

6.What do you want in your life now?
  • I want to grad, settle down and find a spouse

7.Do you carry an umbrella when it rains or just put up your hood?
  • A little rain doesn't hurt a handsome man.. nuff said :))
8.What's your favourite thing to do on the bed?
  • NDSing
9.What bottoms are you wearing now?
  • Shorts

10.What's the nicest things in your inbox?
  • Memories of FD...
11.Do you tend to make the relationship complicated?
  • Everything complicated can be simplified

12.Are you wearing anything borrowed from anyone?
  • Nope
13.What was the last movie you caught?
  • Nightmare on Elm's Street
14.What are you proud of?
  • The ability to perceive, listen, assert and response reflectively
15.What does the oldest text msg in your inbox say?
  • from Celcom..
"Welcome to Celcom bla bla bla"

16.What was the last song you sang out loud?
  • The Lima - Kau Ada Dia

17.Do you have any nicknames?
  • XeNo, Ghost, JK

18.What does the newest text say and from who?
  • from Deevon
"Bts pls.. Ayu nak join"

19.What time did you go to bed last night?
  • around 2am
20.Are you currently happy?
  • Maybe?

21.Who gives you the best advise?
  • The Net.. All the advices are there

22.Do you eat whipped cream straight from the can?
  • I do I do I do~ =D

23.Who did you talk on the phone last night?
  • Nadd
24.Is something bugging you now
  • Yeah..

25.Who was the last person to make you laugh?
  • Fa

Sunday, May 16, 2010

What If A Woman Doesn't Call Back?

One of the things I've talked about before is how once a person believes something to be "true" or believes that they understand how something works, that they tend to make other information or new things that they learn, fit that older model, rather than being open to change..

For instance, people who become part of a cult will tend to take the advice from others, evidence that they're not doing the right thing etc. to help convince them that they ARE doing the right thing..

The reason that I bring this up is because it sounds to me like you're looking for an answer to how to solve a problem that you should actually try to PREVENT in the first place.

I'm going to talk about how to prevent this problem first, then tell you a few things you can do when you run into it again in the future as well..

Here are two things to keep in mind:

1) Women give out their numbers to guys A LOT (on average). A woman can have all kinds of reasons for giving out her number. She might like the attention, or it might even be just to get rid of a guy.

2) Women expect men to call THEM. And if a man doesn't reach them when he calls, a woman expects the man to TRY AGAIN. (In the book "The Rules" - the book for women about how to get a man to marry you - the authors tell women not to call men and rarely return a man's call, because it makes him think about you and want you more).

If I were you, I'd start thinking about two approaches:

1) Figure out how to make it so that women WANT to give you their REAL number and make them WANT to call you back based on the first meeting.

2) If you got a number instead of email, call her at least 3 or 4 times before you give up.

To figure out how to make women WANT to call you back, you might have to work on improving your humor, your personality, your appearance, or whatever. In short, you need to learn how to make a woman feel ATTRACTION for you when you first meet her. If you don't, she's not likely to call you back.

Don't go too overboard on this one because a lot of this issue is just the fact that women don't return calls as often as men do... but think it through.

There are probably a few things you're doing that make women feel a little strange at first (this is just a guess, as most guys have things they could improve).
Maybe you're acting a little too nervous.

Maybe you're acting too "nice" or like you're "awed" by women.

Maybe you're not making eye contact directly, and you're giving off a "not-very-confident" vibe.
Think about it.

But the best thing you can do is to just call a woman on the phone 3 or 4 times before you give up! (That is, when a woman gives you her REAL number)..

Women expect men to keep trying, so they just don't call back.

Remember, SHE'S THE WOMAN.. She's the one who's getting approached by interested guys, and who probably sees you as "just another guy" calling her..

You must be persistent, keep it cool and low-key, and keep calling until you reach her.

If a woman gives you a fake number, it just means that she wanted to get rid of you...

You need to think about how the interaction went, and TAKE RESPONSIBILITY for the behavior and communication that made her want to give you a fake number.

Again, think about it and make improvements.

And to answer your question directly of "What do I do if I see her again afterwards", I'd say that it all depends.

If you would consider going out with a woman who has the ethical standard of giving out fake numbers, then I'd say you might want to reconsider your choice of women...

And if you would like to talk to a woman who didn't call you back (maybe you left her a message, etc.), then I'd come up with something funny. Cocky & Funny, that is.

Walk over and make fun of her because it's obvious that she didn't have enough money to pay her phone bill and when she tried to call you back she found that her phone was disconnected but that it's nothing to be ashamed of and you'll take pity on her and buy her some ramen noodle soup while she's broke and hungry.

Just make sure you're lighthearted about it, and you communicate that you could really care less that she didn't call you back... but that you're going to take the opportunity to bust on her because she's in your presence.

Your body language says SOOOOO MUCH about you, and women use body language to decide many, many things about you.

If your body language and communications aren't working together to create ATTRACTION, then you're going to get a lot more fake numbers and a lot fewer calls back from women.

Saturday, May 8, 2010


I was on the phone with one of my friends, who at that time, was troubled.. We talked about stuffs and somehow the topic went into ex-bf/ex-gf.. Then she requested that I show her the pic.. Well, suddenly, something hit me.. I was like.. Was I really that big before? Omg.. I was looking at a neck-less man =______=

And again, it got me thinking.. If I didn't went through that breakdown, had my life turned upside-down, etc etc etc, things that happen today, won't be happening at all.. So, bunch of thanks to Jijot \(^▽^*)(*^▽^)/

Without further ado, here's a sum of pics I've compiled (^_^)

Wednesday, May 5, 2010

Tagged by Doryn

Thx to doryn for tagging me ―(T_T)→
so here we go!

It's harder than it looks...
Copy to your own notes...
Erase my answers...
Enter yours and tag twenty (20) people...
Use the first letter of your name to answer each of the following questions...
They have to be REAL...
Nothing made up...
If the person before u had the same first initial, you must use different answers...
You cannot use any words twice...
You can't use your name for the boy / girl name question...

1. What is your name : Nazruddin Hisyam
2. A four letter word : Nine
3. A boy's name : Naim
4. A girl's name : Natsuki
5. An occupation : Nurse
6. A colour : Navy Blue
7. Something you wear : Necktie
8. A food : Nut
9. Something found in the bathroom : New towels
10. A place : New Orleans
11. A reason for being late : No wakeup calls
12. Something u shout : Noooooooooooooooooooooooooo!!!
13. A movie title : Not another teen movie
14. Something u drink : Nestea
15. A musical group : NSYNC
16. An animal : Naked Mole Rat
17. A street name : Nallur Road (Singapore)
18. A type of car : Neo

oke.skang kena tag 20 org.
1) Deevon
2) Ika @ Radiusite
3) Nad
4) Diana
5) Aishah
6) nibee
7) ap
8) orelle
9) xua
10) dayana(bungek)
11) hanip
12) nami
13) shea
14) alia
15) arob (if u're reading this lol)
16) nikki
17) xender
18) didi
19) anna
20) sue

MMmmmm..kay~ ( ̄へ ̄)

Well.. Maybe.. Just maybe, my annoyance to someone already reached its limit.. I messaged her in a good will.. I just got my haircut, wanna show her my new hairdo.. Unfortunately, she's still angry at me since Sunday night..

I know the fact that BFF is just an extra "F" than a BF.. Thus making it more insignificant than the other.. Anyway, even if I didn't call or message you last weekend, you'd still have to change your phone to silent mode, and still will get into an argument with him.. But nonetheless, it's human nature to blame others.. I understand that perfectly.. (?・・)σ

All I can say is, sorry for the trouble I've caused and good luck with your relationship with him \(^∀^)メ(^∀^)ノ