Like? or Want?

What behaviors can YOU implement that are known to make the women that YOU DESIRE MOST to want you?

First of all, it’s time for a small but important distinction. Be aware: there is a difference between LIKING and WANTING.

A woman can like you perfectly fine, and still not be ATTRACTED to you. (Hint: this is called ‘friendship’.)

Unfortunately, a lot of guys TRY to create ‘attraction’, when in fact, what they’re ACTUALLY doing is creating FRIENDSHIP.

Many guys attempt to do things for a woman which (he thinks) will make her want him …

… but which, in actual fact, do nothing but broadcast his COMPLETE lack of perceived control over the situation, his DESPERATION to effect a certain ‘end’, and his cluelessness about ‘how attraction works’.

Such men include those who preface a conversation with a female counterpart with the words, ‘Hey, can I buy you a drink?’ and ‘You’re pretty’ …

… as well as guys who assume the ‘therapist’ role (hearing all about the ex, the guys who’ve ‘done her wrong’, and about the guy she’s currently seeing) …

… as well as guys who ROLL OVER and play ‘dead’ for a woman (being the chauffeur, buying her stuff, putting up with weird behavior and temper tantrums, and generally pandering to the idea that SHE is in control and YOU are supplicating to her.)
Fortunately, there are many women out there who have too much self-respect, compassion, and BETTER OPTIONS than to encourage that kind of behavior from men …

… but on the other, less-fortunate hand, such women DO exist who WILL accept (and in fact, blatantly orchestrate) such behavior … some, who even EXPECT IT.

Such women are toxic, and you would do well to avoid all interactions with them. Sex is not a valid currency in the mind of ANY man who has a modicum of value.
So here’s the point: those are the kind of women who ‘like you’ (or appear to) rather than actually WANTING YOU.

(They are also, often, the kinds of women who believe that ‘men are rats’, that they’re only out to ‘get one thing from a woman’, and that your funds are a valid exchange for such shreds of time and fleshliness as she’s prepared to throw your way.)

… and let’s be honest here. Most of the time, that fleshliness is REFERRED to often, but rarely actually MATERIALIZES. So she’ll hint, infer, and otherwise make you THINK that you’re maybe going to get a ‘reward’ for all your troubles … but it almost NEVER actually HAPPENS.

There is an important lesson here: if you want to make a woman WANT you, you have got to be in control of yourself, and not seem DESPERATE.

The easiest way not to seem desperate is, of course, to actually not BE desperate. And the best way to genuinely avoid desperation is to actually HAVE OPTIONS when it comes to women and dating.

If you ever catch yourself feeling as though you’d ‘do anything’ for a woman just to have her hang around, she will SENSE it and be repelled.

Why?

Because women don’t like weak, needy men who are OK with receiving poor treatment simply to bask in her presence.

Power corrupts. And absolute power corrupts absolutely.

So lesson one: don’t give away your power. Don’t supplicate. Don’t beg. Don’t be desperate. For now, put your attention on the necessity of not ‘faking’ anything (i.e. not having to PRETEND not to be needy or desperate, while all along your heart’s hammering away and your palms are sweating because this is Your Big Chance)

… and of actually HAVING OPTIONS.

A few solid guidelines:

Don’t be on call for her.-

Don’t drop everything for her.-

Don’t wait for her to validate you.-

Don’t offer to purchase anything or expend any resources in order to talk to her - or see her. (If taking girls out is something you already do for fun, then fine. But if you’re doing it because you want her to ‘like you’, then consider that your first red flag and drop that behavior like a hot potato.)

Don’t be the one she calls ONLY when she ‘needs something’. -

Be a man, not a puppy-dog. -

But enough with the doom and gloom. So now you know how to make a woman ‘like’ you as opposed to ‘want’ you …

… so how do you flip the coin? How do you make her WANT YOU?

Is it looks?

Is it wealth?

Is it confidence?

Is it power?

All those things are part of it, but they’re not THE SINGLE MOST FUNDAMENTAL THING.

I want you to think deeper than what everyone else is telling you. Think deeper than ‘conventional wisdom.’

What is the single most fundamental thing that a woman wants in a sexual partner?

Think about it…

What’s the one thing she HAS to have?

I can tell you straight off that it isn’t looks. There are plenty of average-looking guys with beautiful women in their lives.

And quality women don’t tend to be overly impressed by wealth.

Confidence is definitely a big one, but it’s still not ESSENTIAL a full 100% of the time, with 100% of women.

… so WHAT IS IT?

Here goes: the MOST important thing that a woman needs in order to WANT YOU is …

… that you are a MAN.